BEYU

In August I visited a local café called Beyu (bee - you) caffé to chat about my life with a good friend. What a message in the name of that café – BE YOU! How often do we find ourselves doing things we really don’t feel like doing to make others happy?

We tell ourselves that we are showing or giving our “love” or friendship when we are really causing ourselves to be tired and sometimes resentful of our friends and family. Why is it so hard for us to say no?

Maybe we are “people pleasing,” or seeking approval or feel like the world will fall apart if we are anything less than superman or superwoman. Perhaps we just enjoy seeing people happy – even if making them happy makes us uncomfortable sometimes. Regardless of why we do what we do, every now and then, you just need to Do YOU!

Spend some time with God, mediate, take yourself shopping, buy yourself dinner, take yourself out and spend all day at home in your pajamas if you want to. When we “do” for ourselves, we rejuvenate and recharge to help others. There is nothing selfish about it. For a healthy you just BEYU!

Newsfeed … December 25, 2011 … 2,011 Likes

On holidays or “Holy Days” we tend to reflect on the meaning of the said “Holy Day.” Today is Christmas, and we celebrate the birth of Jesus, the son of God, who was born of a virgin, died for the sin of the people in the world and was resurrected on the third day after His crucifixion. Today we celebrate His coming into the world. We know this because the Gospels tell us what happened – 2,000 years later.

At the time of Jesus’ is birth, news traveled a little slower than today in 2011. Messages were sent via messengers on horseback, camel-hump or by ship. They even ran marathons or sent pigeons with pertinent information. It could take days, weeks or even months for information to arrive to populations around the world or in various kingdoms. 

Today, we are accustomed to instantaneous information via the television, radio, Facebook, Twitter, MySpace, instant messaging and other internet mediums. What would have happened if Jesus were born in the age of the internet?

The social stigma Mary received for being pregnant and unwed would have not been as taboo, and the Wise Men would have flown to Bethlehem.  BUT what if Mary & Joseph had Facebook? What would their “newsfeed” look like?

If Mary & Joseph had Facebook…

Early in the morning

Have you ever gotten to the end of your day and wondered what happened to the day? You’re wondering how 6 p.m. came so soon and why you didn’t do the 10 things you set out to do that day. When we wake up, our minds are generally clear and we often times decide to “save the world” that day – or if not the world then at least give our “to do” list a good striking through. Then something happens. The seconds turn into minutes, minutes turn into hours, the evening arrives and we’ve done nothing. Not a thing on our list is checked off. We didn’t save the world, and we didn’t save anything in our personal lives. How do we stop this viscous cycle?

I’ve heard many people advise that “early in the morning” is when we should pray, meditate, read, workout and take time for the important things in our lives. I have been resistant to this creed for a few things. While I meditate, pray and spend quiet time with God, I haven’t gotten my head around exercising or reading or some of the other things that I am too tired to do in the evening. Now that it is dark outside in the early morning, I especially loathe getting up because psychologically for me, it is still “night time.” What’s the solution? SUCK IT UP!

If I constantly create excuses as to why I can’t get up and do what I say I want to do, then clearly I don’t want to do those things “bad enough.” We create time for what is important – even if the time is in the wee hours of the morning. Early in the morning, our minds & spirits are fresh (even if our breath isn’t!) and our bodies are poised to do great things. 

There is a woman whom I greatly admire who had three children, and she found the time to get up, spend time with God in prayer and study time, exercise, lose 20+ pounds, keep her household running and work full-time while being an awesome mom. If you have excuses, look around in your life for someone who has all the excuses in the world, but still finds a way to make it happen. Maybe you can glean some inspiration from them. There is a special blessing for those who decide to start their day early in the morning…